Thursday, November 6, 2008

Baby Jay

I took my twins to the dentist in July and both needed fillings 
(which the Bunny Rabbit and the Dolly Llama call 'feelings'). 
I left promising I would call and set up the appointment when 
I was in front of my (mythical) calendar. 

The family calendar is something I clearly can't master. 
Perhaps it is more my expectations of the family calendar.
Gapetto and I definitely fly by the seat of our pants - all the 
time - with VERY mixed results. I imagine this large color-coded 
calendar with a key at the bottom (like on a map) and who's 
cooking when and who's cleaning up and when we bring snacks 
to school, and on and on. Now being graphic designers that 
probably isn't that far-fetched but it is what I expect the 
calendar will provide...

A calm and orderly life.

Yeah, right.

So I forgot to make the follow up appointment for the 'feelings' 
till they left a message a few weeks ago. 


We went back to the dentist and found out that one of the 
Dolly's cavities had progressed to where the tooth needed to 
be removed by an oral surgeon. It was a baby tooth in the 
spot where someday a 12 year molar will grow into.

We went for the consultation and discussed the procedure 
with the doctor who was fabulous. The Dolly seemed pretty 
comfortable with him too.

The night before the procedure the kids called me into 
the bathroom during tubby time. Clearly they had been 
having a lengthly discussion because no actual washing 
had occurred yet.

'Mommy, do you think I should keep Baby Jay or give it to 
the Tooth Fairy?' Two expectant faces looked up at me. 

What the....?

It took me a moment to deconstruct this sentence. 
Hmmmm, tooth fairy - AHA! She was talking about her 
baby tooth which happens to be in position J in her mouth 
on the tooth chart. Who knew she was paying such 
close attention?

I certainly should have - not much gets by this child.

She had the surgery yesterday and after a rocky couple of 
hours was back to her (6-1/2 year) old self.

As they wheeled her out to our car I was struck by few things. 

Somebody help me if something ever really happens to one 
of my babies because I don't do so well even seeing them 
sedated. I thought of all of the mothers who are actually
dealing with something BIG with their children.

And I felt empathy and gratitude.

Then I thought of the privilege of being able to do a health 
procedure that is prophylactic. And I wondered about all of 
the people who have to wait until something is terribly wrong 
and then go to the emergency room and wait in pain FOREVER.

And again I felt empathy and gratitude.

I have high hopes for this new administration. 
I also know that the man is taking on one hell of a mess. 
And yet I hope.

I hope that one day every child will have health insurance.


I hope that one day every single person will have health 
insurance. But the children are a great beginning.

As for Baby Jay? She is resting comfortably [in the special 
little box that the nurse presented to the Dolly] up on the 
window sill in our kitchen.

And miracle of miracles, somehow the tooth fairy knew that 
Dolly had lost a tooth even though it wasn't under her pillow.

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At November 6, 2008 at 11:21 PM , Blogger TRS said...

Study the reality of countries now practicing socialized medicine. Sure, everyone is covered, but that assumes they actually get to have the procedures done in a timely matter.

Why do you think so many people come to America to have surgery? They'd have to wait years to get it done in their country.

Universal Healthcare is a great ideal. I just worry that the reality of making it happen, won't actually meet the ideal concept.

The USA needs to study other nations very closely and work very hard to create a system that doesn't have the trap doors that we see in other countries.

At November 7, 2008 at 12:40 AM , Blogger Karen said...

TRS, you need to have a reality check of your own. I have no insurance now, after spending 20 years working for corporate America and then being laid off. I have not had insurance since 1996. I can tell you 1. that if you are really ill and in need of care you can get it in the United States. I know this because my husband was hospitalized in 2005 for 4 days, and we had no insurance. It has cost us $90 per month since then to pay for that hospital stay, with a long way to go until it is paid in full. IF we could get insurance, it would have cost us $1500 per month for the premiums. We chose to do without.

2. We have gone to Mexico several times over the years for dental work--a root canal and crown that would have cost $1500 in Georgia cost us only $400 in Mexico. I am not afraid to walk over that border to get the services I need. The dentists over there are open 7 days a week, you don't have to have an appointment, and they take checks.

The price of health care in this country needs to be brought more in line with what it actually costs to provide it.

At November 7, 2008 at 10:15 AM , Blogger Leendaluu said...

Some fear universal healthcare because they will not get to pick their doctors...well, our family has TWO policies and we still don't get to "pick" our doctors--the insurance company picks them. When I choose my provider, I pay out of pocket and am reimbursed a measly sum. However, I have money and I have a choice--I feel so bad for people who can't even afford the insurance picks.

Health care is not a privilege, it's a right and I'm willing to take a chance on Universal health care so that all children (and adults) are covered.

We are battling dental issues with Eli week she had some major fillings and we've been going around about the sedation aspect... Guess we'll try it without first....

*sorry for this wandering stream of conciousness...something happened to my brain between 49 and 50 ;-)

At November 7, 2008 at 9:12 PM , Blogger the mommie of mommie blogs said...

so glad to hear everything went well and the tooth fairy found her way to your house :)

At November 8, 2008 at 7:14 PM , Blogger (In)Sanity Gal said...

What a good and kind tooth fairy

At November 9, 2008 at 5:02 PM , Blogger EatPlayLove said...

my daughter needed some "feelings" recently as well, but nothing major, just some laughing gas that made her teeth feel ticklish.

I believe children in the wealthiest country on earth deserve healthcare. Am I a socialist, maybe!

And as far as Georgia going blue, if it can happen in Colorado, it can happen there too!!!

At November 10, 2008 at 9:31 PM , Blogger LemonySarah said...

LOVE naming the tooth Baby Jay! Sweet and clever gets me every time.

It drives me crazy that such a rich country can have people who can't afford health care. It breaks my heart when I see people, even honest working people who are missing teeth or hobbled because they can't get the health care the rest of us take for granted.

Hopefully, this won't be an issue when our kids grow up.


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